… according to Chinese guys.
You might call us some kind of AMWF-stalkers but we really enjoy reading other people’s opinions or their experience in interracial relationships. And to get into one you first need to date someone.
It’s always good to get some advice from ‘older brothers’ who already went through all the troubles and can guide you to your dream girl – you just need to ask online to get all the knowledge and hints you need. Some of them are useful, some of them are useless, some of them are just stupid. Check them out!
- You don’t need to be strong or have big muscles, but you should exercise. It’s also good to know a little bit about sport, in Western society cheering the team is a thing they care about. It also helps you to get out of ‘nerdy Asian’ stereotype.
- Don’t wear glasses – girls don’t really like it. My US girlfriend and my German ex-girlfriend both said that they don’t like me wearing them.
- Learn how to drink – foreign girls drink a lot, they can be better than average Asian guy so you need to keep up with them. It will also help you to socialize with her friends.
My husband tried to socialize so badly I had to hold up his head when he threw up. That sets up the mood.
- Hold the doors, do things gentlemen do – no matter if the girl is white, black or whatever they like guys who know how to behave and can treat them really well. Every girl wants to be a princess for a while.
- Be clean, smell well, use perfume. Take a lot of care about your teeth, no one wants to date someone who looks/smells like homeless.
- Show off with your money and cars. You can be ugly or old but with money you will always find some good looking girl.
Yup, if you want gold diggers around your person.
- Be brave and self confident, even thought my girl is 10 cm taller I went to talk to her and asked her out. Same with my ex-girlfriend, I asked her directly and that worked. If they don’t like you – too bad, but they will be straight about it. You have nothing to lose, you can only win.
- When it goes to income it’s much easier to please a white girl than Asian girl, but you should have a job to show her that you can earn money and you’re not affraid of any job. They won’t mind you being a waiter or making burgers in McDonald’s, any stable job can please them and you don’t really need to spend much to go out with them, coffee or Chinese food works well – it’s cheap and for them it’s exotic.
- Improve your language – if you cannot talk you cannot make a relationship. If she knows your language or is willing to learn it’s great, but if you show her that you’re interested in her culture and language it will give you some extra points. Not to mention you can later know what she talks about with her friends or family. No talk, no relationship.
It’s so true, but in my head I could only think of 許冠傑 ‘钱钱钱’ and his ‘no money, no talk’.
- Don’t think too much – Western society is more friendly, opened, touchy. A kiss in the cheek or a hug can be just a nice friendly gesture and don’t really need to mean she’s interested in you. White girls kiss their friends in the cheek for goodbye, or hold friend’s arm, but it has no physical meaning to them.
- Let the revenge lead you – they f… our women during the wars, now we f… their.
You surely not. I seriously don’t know how to comment something like this. But there’s always one or two guys like that.
- Get a right target: make sure she has some friends, ‘queen’ (or flower) is beyond what you can get, always approached by other guys, social outcast might treat you like a center of their universe and change into overly attached girlfriend who will stab you if you want to break up. Pick the ground of the flower - less chance for her to be crazy, it’s not a shame to show up with her and won’t be too popular among the guys.
Or maybe just pick the one you like, not someone you find as ‘not a potential killer’?
- Don’t be cheap – splitting a glass of tap water will not lead you to a second date. No one likes cheap people, it’s fine to have just a walk in the park and maybe drink some coffee together, but you must not cross the ‘cheap-ass-line’.
- Bring her a tiny gift – girls like a nice treatment, but don’t show off with your money or make them uncomfortable. Flower or a cake from her favourite bakery is enough to give her a smile and warm feeling about you.
I cannot really say that those dating advices are so much different than in any ‘same race’ dating. It might just seem much more complicated than it really is.
Do you agree with those advices? What else would you say to Asian men who want to date foreign girls? Share your thoughts and ideas!